30岁了没有结婚,很焦虑怎么办?
◌❆30岁了没有结婚,很焦虑怎么办?
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▇☤30岁了没有结婚,很焦虑怎么办?
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30岁未婚别着急,若有缘总有份。前一段可能您为事业的成就而耽误了,或者因你胆小不敢与异性接触聊天,或者因您怕丑不敢与对方来往交流,或者自认为条件不具备懒得理睬他人。这些都不是耽误结婚问题,关键是自已不要怕丑,不要怕丢脸,厚面皮找,嘴头要滑些,用钱大方些,找对眼穷追不舍……
↣☥30岁了没有结婚,很焦虑怎么办?
如果你感到低落,那是你活在了过去;如果你很焦虑,那是因为你活在了未来;如果你感到很平静,那你活在了当下。
If you are depressed, you're living in the past; if you are anxious, you're living in the future; if you are at peace, you're living in the present.
年轻人焦虑是可以理解的,但别着急,踏踏实实的,你认真做的一切都会被看得到,现在积累的所有东西,到最后都是长在你自己身上的本事,没有人能拿得走。
Young people's anxiety is understandable, but don't worry, be down-to-earth. Everything you do seriously will be seen. All the things you have accumulated now are your own skills in the end. No one can take them away.
要克服生活的焦虑和沮丧,得先学会做自己的主人。
To overcome the anxiety and frustration of life,
you must first learn how to be your own master.
焦虑不能清空明天的问题,只会消除今天的力气。Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles; it empties today of its strength.
思维上的懒惰会让你脱离不开舒适圈,行动上的懒惰会让你陷入空想和焦虑。
Laziness in thinking will make you inseparable from the comfort zone, and laziness in action will make you fall into fantasy and anxiety.
迷茫,来自于“不确定性”,来自于“想不清楚”的状态,以及对未知的未来充满恐惧和焦虑。应对迷茫,在于找到确定性,知道自己想要什么,能做什么,该做什么,百分百的笃信执行。 而寻找确定性的最好办法,就是制定属于自己的目标。没有目标,就没有战略;没有战略,就没有计划;没有计划,就没有行动。你就像是踩在西瓜皮上一样,感觉滑到哪里都可以。没有目标和计划,人就不知道自己要去哪儿。 当你觉得选择的路很艰难,很累,很难受的时候。 说明你可能在成长,你在走上坡路。当你觉得选择的路很容易,很爽,很舒服的时候。说明你可能在逃避,你在走下坡路。
Confusion comes from "uncertainty", from the state of "not thinking clearly", and fear and anxiety about the unknown future. Coping with confusion is to find certainty, to know what you want, what you can do, what you should do, and to execute with faith. The best way to find certainty is to set your own goals. No goal, no strategy; No strategy, no plan; No plan, no action. It's like you're stepping on watermelon rind,it feels like you can slide anywhere. Without goals and plans, one doesn't know where one is going. When you feel that the road you have chosen is difficult, tired and uncomfortable. It means you're probably growing, you're on the way up. When you feel the path is easy, pleasant, and comfortable. It means you're probably running away, you're going downhill.
岁月静好有时候是一堆脂肪,是一个贬值的符号。按照物理学原则,静是不存在的。按照金融学的原则,静就意味着贬值。按照竞争学的原则,静就意味着等死。即使是太阳,也每天在努力,带着太阳系大大小小八个弟弟妹妹,在无穷的银河系空间,不停地奔跑。人生,不必焦虑,也不必过度渲染凌晨四点的洛杉矶,但也不能绝对静好,为了理想,为了生存,要动起来,敢于跑出舒适区走一遭。
Years of quiet good sometimes is a pile of fat, is a devaluation of the symbol. According to the principles of physics, stillness does not exist. According to the principles of finance, quietness means devaluation. According to the principle of competition, quietness means waiting for death. Even the sun, with its eight brothers and sisters of the solar system, is striving every day to run through the infinite space of the Milky Way. Life, do not have to worry, do not over-render Los Angeles at four o 'clock in the morning, but also can not be absolutely quiet, in order to ideal, in order to survive, to move, dare to run out of the comfort zone.
很多时候,我们的痛苦情绪都是来源于别人。因为人总是忍不住和别人比。甚至还不止和别人比,还会和过去辉煌的自己比。而当你接纳了焦虑的自己,你就不再比较了。其实你不用去在意别人的看法和评价。你不是为了满足别人的期待而活,别人也不是为了满足你的期待而活。过好自己的人生,就够了。人一定要学会自救。万物皆有裂痕,那是光进来的地方。其实你也可以成为自己的那束光。
Most of the time, our painful emotions come from other people. Because people can't help but compare themselves to others. Even not only compared with others, but also with the past glorious self. And when you accept your anxious self, you stop comparing. You don't have to worry about what other people think. You don't live to meet the expectations of others, and others don't live to meet yours. Live your own life, that's all. One must learn to save oneself. There's a crack in everything, and that's where the light comes in. You can also be your own light.
℃┲30岁了没有结婚,很焦虑怎么办?
现实中30岁未婚的太多了,我想多数还是因要求太不现实造成的。现实的社会,现实的人,还是面对现实吧,真爱是付出,不要被不合实际的想法浪废了美好的时光。
↶≉30岁了没有结婚,很焦虑怎么办?
其实30岁了没有结婚的,只有部分人很焦虑。那些进取心强的人,他们都在忙事业,忙学业。须没结婚但身边并不缺异性朋友。既没工夫去焦虑,感情生活也不缺失。
焦虑的是什么人?是农村和城市里读书不多,没有一技之长,或好吃懒做,好高骛远,或家庭条件很差的这部分三十岁还沒有找到对象的人。
其实光焦虑是解决不了实际问题的。唯一的方法就是通过努力改变自己的现状。把自己"武装"起来。包括技术,智慧,能力。逐步提高自己的社会地位,经济能力和物质条件。而作为女性首先要放低选友标准。其实金钱和物质在婚姻里的作用真的不大。很多条件优越的往往都是高傲的男子主义者。
三十岁正是成熟期,如没结婚千万别焦虑,放下包袱出去闯出一番事业。通过几年的努力把自己培成一片森林,到时还怕沒鸟飞来。
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